People decide to get a divorce for many different reasons. Lack of communication in the marriage, financial difficulties that aren't able to be resolved or perhaps there is a lack of trust. Whatever the reason may be, all marriages can be saved and the divorce can be stopped. Most of the time it's really worth giving your relationship another chance.
If one or the other partner was unfaithful, the relationship still can be saved. If you were the one that stepped outside your marriage vows, you need to own up to it and take responsibility. The last thing you should do is try to convince your spouse that you can change or that you won't ever do that again. Actions speak louder than words so your words have absolutely no meaning at this time.
If broken trust is the main issue, never break their trust again. Don't give them a reason to walk out of the relationship if you truly want to save your marriage. The main thing that needs to be done at this point is to prove to them that you can be trusted again. There is no overnight fix and it will take time so try to be patient. The ugly truth is that you don't deserve to be trusted at this point and you now are on the long road of having to build that trust back again.
There will be times I'm sure that the trust issues will still be brought up because it takes time to repair what has been broken. Don't argue the point or get mad about it because you did mess up and it's up to you to prove that you have changed and you are now a better person.
The best way to understand this situation is by putting yourself in their shoes. How would you feel if the roles were reversed? How hurt would you be and how willing would you be able to forgive and forget? It definitely wouldn't be an easy task to accomplish so you can't expect your partner to heal overnight. It may even take years to recover from broken trust but if you are willing to work on your marriage and repair the hurt you have caused, the end result will be worth the effort.
Another solution is to seek out friends or acquaintances that have been where you are who may be able to offer you some advice on how to stop a divorce. Getting outside help from different sources cannot only help you understand how to deal with this, but maybe provide you with other solutions you had not yet thought of.
Relationship advice can never hurt.
When trust is broken and you want to stop a divorce, seek as much help as you can find. This isn't a situation where you have to deal with this all alone.
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